Wife is 40 wks preg. Has high bp, on bed rest and cervix hasn't softened at all. Dr. says c-section. Advice

Needing some info to calm my wife. She does not want a c-section. Dr. says the baby is no where near her pelvic region and there is no pressure to soften the cervix. Any advice?Wife is 40 wks preg. Has high bp, on bed rest and cervix hasn't softened at all. Dr. says c-section. Advice
Can't they try to induce her first??? I had high BP with my second child and doc induced me 2 weeks early. Everything went just fine and the baby was fine too.Wife is 40 wks preg. Has high bp, on bed rest and cervix hasn't softened at all. Dr. says c-section. Advice
Doctors perform C-Sections more than necessary. I will agree your Dr knows best . Physicians like scheduling C-Sections because they are planned. Your wife should visit with the doctor once/twice a week with her blood pressure elevated. Look for swelling.. Ok MORE than usual and press on the ankles and shins if you notice more swelling contact the Doc ...





Call the Physician and tell the physician your wifes concern. Tell him that she wants a natural birth because state her reason.





Generally if an induction is scheduled baby will start coming down the birthing canal however, if this is to sudden she will not dialate and then a C-Section will be performed.





Is this your first Child? Woman generally go over there due dates with there first child. A physician generally won't consider a C-Section unless she is 42 weeks pregnant.





The stress of everday life will eleveate your wifes blood pressure causing more stress to the baby. I would try to calm her down... I know easier said then done lol at 40 weeks your ready to have your baby :) Just try to keep her calm.





Talk to the doctor and see if she can go on 10 minute brisk walks. This will help her delivery and help baby start moving down. Talk to your physician... but also your seman will also soften the cervix and get nature moving along.. Yes she is uncomfortable but she can lay on her side... and you fill in the rest.,..
I guess I understand the nervousness of the c-section, but honestly, the dr has your wife and baby's best interest at heart. She most likely needs to have that baby and with high bp, inducing labor might not be the best idea. Listen to the dr...he's going to do what's best for all of you.





Good luck and hope you have that baby soon!!!
listen to your wife's doctor. at best, the due date is a guess, but if she is 40 weeks and not showing any signs of being ready and has high blood pressure issues, a c-section may be the safest option for everyone.





i had my daughter by c-section (had placenta previa %26amp; traditional birth was not an option) and both mom and baby came through it like champs! i have a tiny scar and we have an absolutely beautiful baby (with a perfectly round head, by the way), and there were no complications at all. and, if you are not squeamish, you can be in the room with her to hold her hand. most c-sections are done using an epidural or spinal block, so your wife will probably be awake. they have a curtain up, so you and your wife don't have to see the icky bits, and you get to see the baby right away.





please tell your wife not to worry, c-sections are not nearly as scary as she thinks. she can go online to chat rooms for mom's in her situation and see what they all had to say.
They can try the prostaglandin gel to try and soften the cervix...they should at least try to induce her if she wants to try a natural birth. I was told by my Dr that the contractions are good for the baby. Teh can try the gel...ask her to ask him about other options than a c-section...ask for an induction first to see if it helps...then use a c-section as a last resort.
Ok i have had 2 c-sections. tell he that if she does the spinal block she will be awake through the whole thing but there will be no pain. you will be allowed to be with her during the process. and you both will still get to see your baby as soon as they are done. it takes about 5 to 10 minutes to get the baby out and 5 minutes to stitch her up. the only thing she will feel is a very slight sensation of them moving her insides to get to the baby. or she can ask them to knock her out. if she decides to do this you can still be in the room if you wish but she will not be aware you are there she will be asleep. they will wait to give her the anesthesia till a few minutes before they start, this way the gas will not have time to affect the baby. when they are ready they will give her the knock out gas and she will fall asleep. immediately after she is asleep the doctor will start. it will only take a few minuted to take the baby out, then while the nurses are cleaning up your baby the doctor will stitch up your wife. when she wakes up she will be in alot of pain but they will have already set her up with a strong pain killer. all she will have to do is press a button and within minutes the pain will ease. and she will feel better. if she decides to go with the spinal block she will not hurt as bad after wards.when the spinal block wears off she will start to feel a mild dose of pain. but before it gets to bad they will give her something for the pain and she will be fine. i hope this helps you both and congrats on your baby!
I was 36 Weeks with preeclampsia HIGH(BP) and they induced me...Everything went fast and I delivered @ 1:01 am ...I was started induced at 3:30 that afternoon.





That day i went in for a check up and the dr. saw my BP was HIGH and I had toxins in my urine. He said... ';we're having a baby today'; I was paniked





If the DR. says C-section he knows BEST! High BP causes LACK of OXYGEN TO THE BABY!!! And being 40 weeks...she needs to deliver now!





Also if she's already been on pitocin...the inducing meds and nothings worked then its DEF C-section time. High bloodpressue has risk of STROKE!! And CEASURES!





My BP was 166/111





My son was 5lb 6 oz. AND HEALTHLY!!!
Why doesn't she want a c-section? She should be very close to delivering and her primary concern should be for her health to keep the baby safe. Is she afraid of the surgery? Or of scarring? Because she needn't be. Address her fears with and be a comfort to her as best you can. If she has favorite music, play that and just make her comfortable. Best wishes.
I've had 3 c-sections for different reasons. For the 1st. She


was breech(coming out feet 1st). For the second I was in labor


from thursday A.M. 'till saturday 7 P.M. and only dilated 3 cm.


For the 3rd same thing no more than 3cm.


If her doctor is suggesting a c-section then she should do it.


It's not dangerous and it's for her baby's well being. Don't


take any chances. Listen to the doctors.They know what's


the best thing to do. GOOD LUCK! GOD BLESS!!
First I want to tell you both congratulations.


www.babycenter.com has a great area on c-section and a great section for dads and how to handle This very subject.





She will be having the baby this week if she is 40 weeks so I would suggest you get the things she needs to make her more comfy when feeding the baby. At least you have the heads up knowing your having a c-section and can be prepared.





One other thing i know you did not ask...But she has had bed rest and that is harder on a woman after delivery with muscle pains. You may want to get a massage book and help her out getting her circulation going. And it is good for lactation to.
Will the docor consider an induction? The high BP and bed rest might make that impossible. It could be that the baby will need to get out of there quickly. FWIW, I was induced at 39 weeks. I wasn't effaced, or dilated, and the baby hadn't dropped. It took a while to get going, but pitocin eventually worked.
There comes a point (a week or two) when the baby's and your wife's health will become at risk from staying in, and I'm sure you'd agree with just about everyone that the baby's health is the most important thing.





I'd talk to you wife and go through what is about a c-section that worries her, whether it is physical, appearance, emotional, whatever. Try to get those things down, and then address these issues with a doctor. When you have a better understanding of why she feels that way, you can then make a comparison against the health risks that will be developing the more you wait.
I did not want a C section either.





My 4th pregnancy was taken by c section, emergency. That was not a comfortable experience, I was totally knocked out, and was groggy after the baby was born, and i hurt something awful, taking a lot of pain killers.





. My 5th pregnancy had to be taken C section as well, i couldn't do VBAC because of the cut they used for the emergency c section. On 5th pregnancy I had an epidural and a bikini cut. I was fully awake and aware. I got to see my baby right away. I didn't use very much pain killer, it wasn't necessary. It was a positive experience.





I healed very quickly from the bikini cut. I was up and moving around in about 3 weeks.





I had less vaginal discharge, because there was no trauma to the vaginal walls or cervix.





I was still able to breastfeed, with no concerns for the medications.





This is my personal experiences. I hope they help with your wife.





No matter what happens. Your baby can still be healthy and happy.