Bad dr's visit. Advice please.?

I am 38.6 wks pregnant and had to see a nurse today b/c my dr is on vacation. I have been having really bad BH contractions for sometime now but they got really bad a couple days ago. I have had EXTREME pain due to round ligaments and the baby moving. Sometimes I can't walk. I went in today and I am very upset. The nurse didn't even check me with my feet in the stir-ups and she said I was 1cm. The last two wks my dr said that I was 3 1/2 cm! Can you go backwards? Also she was rushing me around and I think it's b/c I am not one of her patients. I have been crying since I left. I am so sick of being pregnant! I have had migraines, SPD, and heartburn so bad that I have to drink baking soda water to keep from vomiting! This is my second pregnancy and I love being a mom but I HATE being pregnant. I just can't wait to see my little girl so that I will forget about all of this! They say you miss being pregnant but I won't and I didn't with my first!Bad dr's visit. Advice please.?
First of all, you are soooo close! Hang in there! You do not need stirrups to perform a sterile vaginal exam. As for the discrepency in exams, you will have to discuss that with your physician, but truly it doesn't matter since you aren't actually in labor yet. Your nurse was very insensative and probably did rush you, they get so used to the ';job';, that they forget the patients. You need to be your own advocate and let them know what you need. It is unfortunate that you have to tell your health care providers to pay attention to you, but sometimes you have to.





Here is the good news. You are almost there. You WILL go into labor soon, and it will be great. At 39 weeks, it seems like you can't go on, I know. But hang in there. A weird bit of advice, try fresh pineapple. I am a labor nurse and have NEVER heard this. But I did it with my third pregnancy when I was 39+4 and the next day I went into labor! HOLY COW! I can't believe it worked!





Get a pedicure. That will make you feel better atleast for a little while. I loved having my feet massaged when I was as big as a house and couldn't reach my toes! Good luckBad dr's visit. Advice please.?
See another doctor!


If there is not another available in the same office, go to another. These last 2 weeks are so important, especially if you are dialating!
I'm so sorry you feel so miserable. I also felt that way. I HATED being pregnant. I asked my dr. to induce me because I couldn't stand it anymore. Your almost there! Hang in there. You can do it!
being that the contractions have gotten much worse over the last few days and you were already dialated to 3 1/2 two weeks ago, i would head for the hospital and say you think you are in labor. this could be the real thing but even if you aren't in labor yet, at least they can check you right and let you know where you stand since that nurse didnt give you proper attention and your doc is away. better to be safe than sorry. the most they will do is send you home to wait if you are not ready yet. no harm in that!
There is a term that is used quite frequently during this time of the season; ';The squeaky wheel gets the grease';. When your Dr gets back into town I would take him aside and express to him just what you expressed here. The treatment that you received was uncalled for, whether you were her patient or not. YOU GET THAT GREASE FOR YOUR WHEEL, ya hear? Make yourself known in that office. Most people feel if they express their feeling with their Dr then they wont be treated nicely ever again......BULL. I would tell you that if I were in your position I would have come home and written down everything that happened to me and kept it till my Dr came back and then give it to him and tell him to FIX IT. I wish you luck honey. Blessings to you and yours for this Holiday Season.
I also had a problem with a nurse in my OBGYN's office. I told the doctor about it. He asked me to write a letter, addressed to him at the office so she could deal with the nurse himself. I guess he needed something in writing so he could counsel her. Write a letter. Get it all off your chest. You will feel better (mentally) once its off your chest. Good luck. Hang in there. Your baby is soooo worth it. :)
im in the same boat!


im 40 weeks plus 2 days overdue!!


my doctor is not good at all!


i see whoever is available at my visits....


and this is considering i go every week since september!


they are all different and give differnt advice and just dont ever give me the advice or support i need.


they wont even induce me and thats considering im overdue!


i havent even been checked once to see if im dialating!!!


DONT WORRY hang in there.............


if u really feel like nothing was acomplished at the visit call tomorrow and ask to be seen again because you were not satisfied with the visit and felt like nothing was done to help your situation and or problems%26gt; u have every right to do this... its your worries and concerns. they are not the ones that are going through this or know just how you are feeling...


GOOD LUCK AND U ARE ALMOST THERE
When does your doc come back? I would call the office and request to see him agian and when you do talk to your doctor tell him that you felt very uncomfortable with the nurse and you want to make sure everything is ok.
yes it is possible to go backwards when dialating i was 5cm for 2 weeks and suddenly went to 3 1/2 cm and the next day i was back to a 5 my mom said this happened to her too she was a 9 and dropped to a 5 i thought the nurses were crazy when they told me it does happen
I'm so sorry you're not feeling well. It really sucks when other people other than your doctor check you out because they are just not as invested in you as your doctor is.


It is common to have your cervex close up a little again, especially if this is your first pregnancy. I've also known women who also walk around for weeks 4-5 cm dilated. It is so frustrating, especially in the final weeks when you just want to have the baby already! I had terrible BH Contractions with my son and a couple of false alarm trips to the hospital with each of my kids starting at about 38 weeks.


Good Luck
I think I'd be upset too! If you start getting those pains again just by pass her and go to the ER. You can always play dumb and tell them you thought you were in labor. They will check to see how dilated you are. They may even hook you up to the machine to see if you are having contractions or do an ultra sound. You don't deserve to be rushed around like that. Until then try to relax. Lay down and drink some water.